Cultivating An Authentic Relationship With Yourself
The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself
The relationship we have with ourselves is one that literally lasts ‘until death do us part.’ It’s the most important relationship we’ll ever find ourselves in and therefore deserves our loving attention. So, welcome! How wonderful that you want to give yourself that time and attention. I’m here to support and guide you in unveiling your true, Authentic Self!
What most of us are ultimately seeking is a peaceful, loving relationship with ourselves. To feel good enough and worthy of being loved for who we truly are. Most importantly, that we love and accept our entire selves—”the good, the bad and the ugly” (even though I don’t believe there are any bad parts of us, only parts that need our loving attention). I support individuals and couples in building that relationship with themselves and their partner.
Where my clients find themselves in relationship to therapy & counseling
“I know what my issues are but I don’t know how to move forward…” “I’ve been to therapy but my life hasn’t really changed…”
Do you feel like your life isn’t changing? Do you fall into the same patterns in relationship?
You may have you gone to therapy or counseling, but feel frustrated that you’re not moving forwards in your life. Or you may have an understanding of what your patterns might be, but don’t know how to evolve beyond them. Does that feel true for you?
Many of my clients tell me that they’ve spent sometimes years in therapy, but don’t feel like their lives have changed much. They feel stuck because they might have an understanding of what is going on within them, but they’re unable to make real progress. Sound familiar?
Why traditional therapy doesn’t always work for everyone, or isn’t enough
Traditional therapy can lay a great foundation and offer us insight into our patterning. But for some, it doesn’t always support them in growing beyond their patterning. Why? Because if we stay in the analysis, we’re basically just getting stuck in the story, sometimes reliving it over and over again, but not doing anything to change or evolve it.
Unless it’s a somatic therapy that brings us into our body, talk therapy alone can keep us in the mind, conceptually understanding what might be happening for us but a concept isn’t nearly as powerful as an embodied experience. Our wounding is often stored in our emotions not our mind. Our thoughts and beliefs are symptomatic of the initial, emotional wound.
We want forward movement. We want to feel like we can change and grow because it gives us a sense of expansion, possibility and even hope. It also gives us confidence, knowing that we’re powerful enough to change our state of being and our lives.
People come to me because they want to feel ‘progress.’ We don’t have to dwell on your story. We can touch upon it to understand why you’re where you are but beyond that, I’m interested in helping you heal, transform and become the person you truly are so you no longer have to feel trapped by the patterns that are holding you back.
The way I do that is by going straight into the embodiment of your experience; my work is experiential not analytical. I connect you to your body, emotions and show you how to not just understand yourself, but how to give yourself what you need so that you can feel that forward movement.
The reason I focus on the embodiment or experience, is because our wounding, trauma and belief systems stem from our emotional and physical experience as children. Our wounding didn’t happen in the mind, it took place in our emotional and physical body because children don’t yet have the mental capacity to make sense of what’s happening within and around them, but they emotionally feel everything (most especially the unsaid).
As adults we can try to understand what happened, but getting stuck in the analytical mind only takes us so far in our healing process. True healing must be felt, not just understood. The process isn’t conceptual but experiential, because this is how we learn and evolve: through experience.
Ultimately, this journey into yourself is about connecting you to your true Self, not who you’ve believed yourself to be based on your limiting beliefs, or who you think you should be for others. This is why I say I guide people back home to their true, Authentic Self.
What would it feel like to know that there’s nothing wrong with you and therefore nothing to fix? That maybe there are just parts of you that need your loving attention? That your Authentic Self is already within you, waiting for you to return home to.
If you resonate with my work and are ready to give yourself the loving attention you deserve, I advise new clients to book an initial 1 hour discovery session before committing to a monthly package. Spaces are limited.
See my fees and read about the value of commitment, and the return you’ll gain by putting two feet fully in, here.