Relationship Coaching
“The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.They’re in each other all along.”
~ Rumi
Majority of people who contact me are single (don’t worry couples, I get to you a little further down the page), frustrated with not being able to “find” the right relationship for them. They’ve been single a long time, they’re fed up with dating apps and they’re at a loss as to how to meet someone. They wonder if something is wrong with them. They wonder why other people are in relationships and not them. Single women feel the pressure of their biological clock ticking. None of these singles know what to do.
If this is you, you’re not alone. Dating, meeting someone, is perhaps more challenging these days but it’s not impossible, it’s just a matter of perspective.
If you’ve been struggling with being single, there is nothing wrong with you but there might be parts of you that need your loving attention to change old patterns and belief systems that have made you feel unworthy, unlovable or not good enough.
The first part of the journey to calling in the right relationship for you, is an inner journey getting to know yourself. The second part is receiving your partner vs looking for them. Don’t worry, you don’t have to solely depend on apps; it’s still possible to meet people organically, we just have to be open to it and trusting that it can happen. We have to turn our lights back on and be the lighthouse vs the flashlight in the dark.
You might be interested in listening to this podcast on how to ‘attract’ love…
Relationship is such a large focus in our lives because let’s face it, we love, love. But relationships aren’t always easy. Actually, they trigger the crap out of us because they reveal all of our wounds, fears, insecurities and unmet needs. For that reason, they’re incredible teachers and catalysts for growth.
The funny (not so funny) thing, is that I often hear singles frustrated and sad that they’re not in a relationship, and couples that are frustrated and sad (in a different kind of way) that they’re in a relationship that feels unfulfilling. It’s hard to get it right, isn’t it?
And yet, we crave love, yearn for partnership and companionship because at the end of the day, our heart feels at home in the lap of love.
The key is not just to seek love or be in any relationship. It’s about attracting and cultivating a love and relationship that is authentic, alive and in alignment with who you truly are.
And that’s what I’m here to do: to support you in receiving and creating the love and relationship that reflects your true, Authentic Self.
If you’re single and tired of the traditional ways of looking or finding a relationship:
I support individuals in firstly creating a healthy relationship with themselves by connecting them to their Authentic Self. From there, they can then attract a relationship in harmony with who they truly are, instead of replicating the same patterns of either rejection, abandonment or general dissatisfaction.
As humans, we repeat unconscious patterns until we make them conscious and change the root cause of what is driving those behaviours and patterns. There’s always a good reason for why we keep getting into the same situations. We just have to unveil the why and then we can change the outcome.
New Relationships: New couples in the first year, experience both the honeymoon phase and the “all of your shit gets triggered” phase. Why? Because relationships are vulnerable and they remind of us of our wounding, hurt, pain, fears, insecurities and unmet needs.
In the first year especially, couples can experience great highs followed by great lows. Getting support to help you lay a good foundation for your relationship is vital for its future longevity because solid foundations make for strong houses. You’re building a home together and that home requires care, loving attention and conscious awareness as the building blocks.
Long-term Relationships: For couples that have been in long-term relationships, it’s easy to get stuck in routines, in the mundaneness of domestic life, bad ways of communicating and feel like the love (and chemistry) is lost. Ironically, even though our partner might be the closest person to us, we can often find ourselves not being fully truthful with them. I don’t mean hiding and lying, I mean being totally honest about how we’re feeling in the relationship.
We bury our suffering and hold it quietly and this creates distance between couples. Honesty reconnects us, but often it’s easier to share our feelings when a neutral person is holding a safe space for us to do so. A guide that can hold both truths and help build the bridge back towards each other.
Relationships are a living thing and we need to make sure that we keep them enlivened by our presence and desire to create genuine connection.
Whether you’re single and wanting to attract a relationship, or wishing to deepen your current one, I’m here to help you manifest, create and maintain a truly authentic relationship.
